Oh, I'm sorry, I don't believe in texting before the 10th date!

That will be my standard reply from now on to any many who tries to text me instead of calling me at any point before our 10th date.
Why have I not written more about K--- from my previous entry?  Because of the possibility of possibility?  Well, more likely because deep in the recesses of my mind I knew there was going to be some kind of something that would go wrong.....he was just too right.  Had he only been able to communicate more effectively, I think this could have gone somewhere.....I don't know where, but somewhere.
This entry will hopefully teach a lesson that many men and women need to learn when dating - BEWARE THE SERIAL TEXTER (whether male or female). 
The serial texter seems to be a staple amongst my girlfriends and their dating "issues" these days.  The man who, rather than call and make plans, sends a series of text messages.  The man who, when texting, says little to nothing that is really substantial and answers in 5 words or less.  The man who fails to respond to a text that you've sent, but then the next day sends a random text that says "good morning."  How does one rationalize this as communication?  Texting is not connection, people!
What is the purpose of this texting style I ask?  What?  Is it to give just enough rope for women to hang themselves?  Just enough interest to keep someone hanging on out of hopes that there will be another "actual" date someday?
Explain to me how a man who tells you to your face that he really likes you.....has two dates with you in one day.....and who you know is genuinely interested during your face-to-face date-time turns into the "serial texter" from hell.
And, when confronted claims to not be playing games......serial random texting, no actual phone calls and a failure to schedule another date within 2 weeks time (whether you have your child in the intermediate weekend or not) STINKS of game-playing to me.
So, gentlemen, avoid the text.  Make the phone call.  Schedule the second/third date in a timely fashion.  Or, women are going to pretty much think that you aren't really as interested as you claimed to be and are, hopefully, going to call you on your B.S. I know I won't hesitate to do so from now on......
And, I will be spending some time contemplating my own judgment skills.  I used to be willing to give this type of man the boot immediately without looking back, but then I found myself being criticized by others for being too judgmental, too hasty, having too high of expectations too early on in a dating situation.  But, I'm starting to believe that those heightened skills of dismissal are what have kept me sane in the world of dating, as opposed to living in a world where I am constantly confused about random communication and non-committal messages that are being sent, via text, email, or phone.  I am going to dig back to my previous layers of armor, enact the walls once again, and if I am single, so be it.  At least I'm single and drama-free and not feeling like I've made yet another bad judgment and wasted yet another couple weeks of my life on a "man" who didn't deserve or really "want" my time from the start.
p.s.  I'd like to think that K--- has some really good reason for doing a 180 in terms of attention and communication.  I'd like to think that he would be gentleman enough to call and explain that, but I'd probably just get another text - in 5 words or less - that said pretty much nothing.  But, a little part of me hopes that my initial "read" on K--- wasn't wrong, if not for my own sense of self-other perception, but for the fact that he did really seem like a great guy who was a gentleman.  He did.  :( 

Hesitation comes from Possibility.....

Ahhhhh - an alleviation from a string of not great dates this year......but I haven't written about it.  I keep asking myself why.
Why do I always hesitate to write about the good date, the great date?  For fear of ruining the "karma" associated with said date?  For fear of actually talking about it and ruining it?  For fear of developing expectations that I have no right to have?  Probably all of the above.
So, I'm going to go against protocol and write about my recent "great date" with K---
K--- appears to be the complete package, ladies, I know, I know.
1.  Smart
2.  Handsome
3.  Employed
4.  Family man
5. Good listener and conversationalist
6. Gentleman
7.  Great smile!
8.  In great shape at 43!
The list could go on, but.....some things I like I'd like to keep to myself for now ;)
What more could I ask for, right?  Right?  Right!  I have nothing to ask for, except that I have the opportunity to see K--- many more times this summer...
I only ask not to be disappointed.
Hopefully, more coming on this one....